Tuesday, 5 February 2013

Till death do us part

In life, as in art, some endings are bittersweet. Especially when it comes to love. Sometimes fate throws two lovers together only to rip them apart. Sometimes the hero finally makes the right choice but the timing is all wrong. And, as they say, timing is everything. (Gossip Girl, season 2)

As the world becomes more connected, where you can meet someone who is across the world from you in the matter of seconds, does it make it harder for a couple to keep their 'sparkle' sparkling? Statistically, the most popular month for divorces is in January, why one may ask? Parents not wanting to ruin the kid's holidays as well as New Year's resolutions. In Britain, January the 8th is the day when the most divorces happens, and worldwide, 50% of these divorces were caused due to abuse (Feldstein Family Law Group, 2012). This seven letter word who daunt families all over the world, has becomes part of our daily life.

Children don't want their parents to be separated or to see their ''mummy and daddy'' with new partners and to spend certain days at different houses, however, when does it become time for the big D to step in? Should children be forcing their parents to stay together or even blame themselves for the separation? Can we blame technology for the speeding rates of separation? Weddings lasting up to 72 days and a religious ceremony losing it's values, can we call it a divorce epidemic? Personally, if more than four million people gave their vows to stay with their loved ones for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health why do people leave when the first problem arises? 

Ever since a young age, children are made to believe that they will get the perfect job, marry the person of their dreams and their life will be perfect, however, when these kids' plans don't go ahead and they don't get the job of their affection and they don't marry the individual with all the features they wished for, what happens then? Can we blame big Hollywood productions for the falling off of romanticism and love? Why can't actors be the average Joe who picks their nose and farts in front of their partner? Why are we stuck in believing that one day we will marry a supermodel and all our problems will be resolved as everyone gets a happy ending? In my opinion, if couples weren't so self-centred worried about having the perfect relationship so their closes friends won't judge them and if they didn't try to blame everything and everyone but themselves, relationships and marriages would actually work. If we devoted our spare time to help the less fortunate and actually try to work out the problem instead of hiding it ''in the closet'' or running away from the situation, divorce wouldn't be such an easy escape.

In the fourties, when two individuals got married they would stay together until death do part them, divorce was something so banal that most couples didn't even know it existed, however, as the decades flew by and materialism became the world's first priority, people started to marry for money, status and appearance without overlooking one minor problem: their relationship will not last if love isn't their first concern. There is seven billion people out there, now more than ever before it becomes much easier to meet them either online or in their home-land, so why are we in such a rush to find our soul-mates? If society didn't jump into things so fast, if individuals didn't expect their life to be a big musical and actually worked through their problems, divorce wouldn't be so common these days. 


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